I dig Tori's advice about how women should navigate aging. I think she means embracing the process, and owning the value in it. But I quibble with the word "grace", mostly because it has such well-behaved connotations. When bestowed upon women, its a word rewarded to a very obedient and composed kind of beauty. Its also, in my experience, a substitute for "careful".
I guess it suits Tori, because she's made her icon outta princessy high femme, and so the "great queen" is, for her, a fittingly regal progression; but I really enjoy seeing older women being loud and subversive, crashing their way through old age, wearing purple and really fucking things up.